Things people say!

I am 35 weeks and 3 days pregnant.
Our baby is gaining about 1/2 pound every week
That's a pound to a pound and a half added to my abdomen in the last 2 weeks!
This is going to continue for the next month
I am getting big....fast

I know it's the baby that's growing, and not me really.
I know that when people say something about it, they really mean, "it's nice that your baby is growing so well"
but still, it's not nice to talk about how big someone is getting. You wouldn't say something like that to me if I wasn't pregnant. And just being pregnant doesn't make me feel much better about the rapid expansion of my belly. I am already uncomfortable and unable to move to because of my size, I know I'm big. I don't need to be told.

These are some of my favorite inappropriate quotes. If you're the perpetrator, don't worry, my feelings aren't hurt. Just take it to heart and remember for all of your future pregnant friends that there are nicer ways to talk to them about their pregnancy.

What was said: "You have 5 weeks left? Ya, you have that 5 week walk"
Could have said: "5 weeks left? I was so uncomfortable at the end of my pregnancy, how have you been handling it?"

What was said: "35 weeks huh. You look pretty big. You might go to term though, I mean, you are a big girl"
Could have said: "35 weeks huh. A lot of women go past term with their first, but it looks like you might deliver early" (this still references that I'm big, but I appreciate the sentiment that the end might be sooner rather than later)

What was said: "I think you've grown a whole inch since I saw you last" (last time I saw this person was 3 days before)
Could have said: "Your baby is growing so fast, she's going to be born before you know it!"

What was said: "You've gotten bigger just over the weekend!"
Could have said: "Isn't it nice to know that your baby only has a few more pounds to gain before she'll be ready to be born. I can't wait to meet her!"

Those are things people have said to me just in the last week. I try to have a good sense of humor, but it's hard to hear about how big you are so frequently. Good rule of thumb, ask about or comment about the baby, not the mom. I love to talk about my baby! I don't want to talk about my belly! Also, especially as the end approaches, try to include an encouraging phrase in every comment. At least I think those things would help. Perhaps I'm crazy though. I might change my mind about it tomorrow...I am pregnant after all. Doesn't that mean volatile?